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As you already know, strong and open communication is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. But even though it's so crucial, that doesn't mean it's easy for everyone to freely share how they feel. If your SO clams up or shuts down, you probably spend a lot of time trying to get them to open up.
And it can be incredibly frustrating. That's why, if things are going to continue, you'll both need to trust each other enough to share thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Do know, though, that this process can be tricky and uncomfortable — especially for men.
While this definitely isn't true for every man, it can be a huge bummer if you happen to be dating a man and he isn't able to open up. And, it can put a strain on your partnership.
If you need the convos to start flowing, read on for some some easy ways to make it easier for you both to talk — all in the name of a healthier, happier relationship. It's not fair to expect your partner to be open, if you aren't willing to do the same. So get in the habit of being open, too, and hopefully he will follow. Instead of going into a conversation ready to unleash some thoughts and advice, go into it ready to listen. If you want your partner to open up, resist the urge to force them into an unwanted conversation. Joshua Klapowwho often talks about this issue on his radio show. Once your SO knows conversations can happen freely and easily, they'll likely happen more naturally.
But don't afraid to subtly encourage them. And two, it allows him to get his verbal motor running. Talking about anything is often a gateway to his feelings. Some people believe men are more action-based, than emotion-based. So try asking about how he reacted to things, instead of how he felt. Hope Suis tells Bustle. By talking about what he did at work or when out with friends, he might open up more about what he thought and felt, too.
Us ladies are big on eye contact. But this doesn't always bode well when talking to your man. Probably the best place to bring up feelings and have a heart-to-heart is in the car. I know, again with the "side" thing.
But this time I mean mentally, instead of physically. Go from generic situation to something more specific in their life. When chatting with anyone, it always helps to take their personality — and likes and dislikes — into consideration. How he experiences life will be a clue to how to engage with him," says Doares. As with anyone, men don't like to feel judged or like they're failing. So try to avoid any judgment when having a frank convo. And, as Doares tells me, play to their strengths. Again, guys aren't big on heavy, one-on-one conversations, according to experts.
So try to avoid them at all costs. It's too intense for us," Etheridge says. There's a test you both should take that looks at the Five Love Languagemeaning the ways you give and receive love. Most men are not easy to open up, so knowing how to speak their 'language' will go a long way. Since opening up doesn't come naturally to everyone, it's important that you give your partner plenty of time to get better at it. Of course you're entitled to your opinion, and you should share what you feel, too.
But when you're both getting used to sharing emotions, let your SO speak without being made to regret it moments later. As Suis tells me, it's not uncommon for couples to bicker after sharing deep thoughts or concerns. And, if you want them to feel OK about sharing thoughts, such a reaction should be avoided. The general take away from this article is that men and woman are, in many ways, very different when it comes to how we communicate.
That's why, if things aren't going smoothly with this whole "opening up" business, try to accept it. As Suis says, "If we can find a way to work around that and appreciate that, we can co-exist in more harmony. Hopefully you'll both be able to feel more comfortable opening up. But it may take some time, and it'll definitely take some practice. By Carolyn Steber.How to make your boyfriend express his feelings
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